J-Jealousy

Jealousy is a sentiment which is born in love which is produced by the fear that the loved one prefers someone else. Its a form of hatred built upon insecurity, obsession and weakness. Jealousy often consists of a combination of emotions such as anger, resentment, inadequacy, helplessness and disgust. In its original meaning, jealousy is distinct from envy though the two terms have popularly become synonymous in the English language, with jealousy now also taking on the definition originally used for envy alone. Jealousy is a typical experience in human relationships It has been observed in infants five months and older. Some claim that jealousy is seen in every culture; however, others claim jealousy is a culture-specific phenomenon

 People do not express jealousy through a single emotion or a single behavior-They instead express jealousy through diverse emotions and behaviors

"Romantic jealousy is here defined as a complex of thoughts, feelings, and actions which follow threats to self esteem and/or threats to the existence or quality of the relationship, when those threats are generated by the perception of a real or potential attraction between one's partner and a (perhaps imaginary) rival." (White, 1981, p. 24)

"Jealousy, then, is any aversive reaction that occurs as the result of a partner's extradyadic relationship that is real, imagined, or considered likely to occur." (Bringle & Buunk, 1991, page 135)

 Jealousy for many people may involve: 

 Fear of loss
Suspicion of or anger about a perceived betrayal
Low self-esteem and sadness over perceived loss
Uncertainty and loneliness
Fear of losing an important person to another
Distrust
Overcoming::Jealousy can often destroy relationships if not nipped in the bud or not dealt with emotional healing. --Steps could include: Recovering personal power to control ones thoughts and emotions,shifting point of view, identify the core beliefs that trigger the emotion of jealousy,becoming self aware that these thoughts are irrational, develop control over emotions and thoughts so that immediately you can divert your thoughts and actions to something more constructive